Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Racial, Ethnic, & National Identities

Originally published July 16, 2014.

Republished on a new web host on May 8, 2019.

Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip:
Racial, Ethnic, & National Identities

See the first post in this series for an introduction to bad and ugly gossip, the negative stereotypes behind bad and ugly gossip, and which group of men gossips the most, meaning this group of men gossips more than any group of women.

If you use negative stereotypes about people who are different from you, you are inviting everyone who hears you to use negative stereotypes about you. Below are some of the negative stereotypes other people could use about you.

My collection of stereotypes comes from books, magazines, newspapers, movies, television shows, radio programs, news shows, conversations, etc.

Be sure to read the Point to Ponder at the end of this post.

I add stereotype examples as I come across them.

African

noisy

produce kitchen odors

African-American/Black/Negro

violent criminals

ignorant

lazy

dirty

quick tempered

emotionally submissive

superstitious

hostile

dirty

on welfare or jobless

unintelligent

negative personality

mean

corrupt

ignorant

stupid

ostentatious

“African-American” suggests to many people

more concern for one group than for society

less persuasive ability

not as likable

tend to complain about small things

Liberals often feel excluded by the African-American label, feeling it focuses

attention on the label rather than on larger issues

American

intrusive

forward

pushy

stingy

selfish

hoarders

aggressive

materialistic

mercenary

crazy

governed by buffoons

arrogant

self-indulgent

hypocritical

unwilling or unable to engage in dialogue with other cultures

Arabic

aggressive

Asian

cunning

slant eye

gook

chink

Kung-Fu fighters

Belgian

egotistical

unhelpful

unscientifically minded

inefficient

Canadian

would be living in igloos without America

Chinese

superstitious

sly

Cuban

bring exotic diseases to the United States

Dutch

negative

egoistical

dominant

less intelligent

lacking individualism

English

aggressive

egoistical

unfriendly

unhelpful

snobbish

cold

French

rude

egoistical

aggressive

dominance

German

unempathic

dominant

aggressive

Gypsy

thieves

dishonest

spies

incendiaries

suspicious

school dropouts

mentally handicapped

retarded

worthless

not human

inhuman behavior

should be killed

wanderers

disliked by God

pagans

heathens

Haitian

undesirable blacks

peasants

uneducated

unskilled

poor

wild

weird

bring exotic diseases to the United States

Hispanic/Latino

greasy

lazy

Immigrant

dangerous

dirty

threatening

criminal

dishonest

complainers

aggressive

violent

lazy

noisy

involved in crime

ruin neighborhoods

don’t want to work

take our houses

take our jobs

abuse social security and welfare systems

cause problems at school

have a different mentality

cause dirtiness

cause urban decay

should be sent back

have too many children

treat women badly

Iraqi

refugees

criminals

representatives of Saddam Hussein

Irish

pugnacious

quick tempered

extremely nationalistic

stupid

improvident

sloppy drunks

Italian

not intelligent

unreliable

aggressive

dominant

unscientific

clannish

Mafia

emotional

quick-tempered

impulsive

Japanese

sneaky

sly

Jews

aggressive

materialistic

mercenary

grasping

kikes

Native American

“Good” Native Americans

friendly

courteous

hospitable

handsomeness

stamina

endurance

modest

noble

dignified

brave

tender

proud

independent

innocent

child-like

“Bad” Native Americans

naked

lecherous

vanity

polygamous

promiscuous

warring

vengeful

brutal

lazy

impracticality

thieving

treacherous

conjurers

barbarous

low intellect

cruel

drunken

cowardly outlaws

inhuman fiends

improvident

filthy surroundings

inadequate cooking

repulsive diet

enslaved squaws

culturally deprived

Native Americans on reservations

degraded

scorned

degenerate

poverty-stricken

outcasts from own race

drunkards

Pakistani

poor

Polish

stupid

racist

bigoted

Turkish

cruel

treacherous

WASP (White Anglo Saxon Protestant)

cold

insensitive

White

corrupt

greedy

competitive

arrogant

prejudiced

mean

Point to Ponder

Did you notice that both African-Americans/Blacks/Negroes and Whites are stereotyped as mean and corrupt?

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Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: People In General

Originally published June 18, 2014.

Revised and republished August 9, 2017 after a web host transfer.

In September 2017, I attended the Woman and Spirituality Conference in Rochester, Minnesota. The Diversity Council of Rochester offered the workshop “Ally Bootcamp For Courageous People”, led by executive director Dee Vazquez Sabol. I participated in the workshop and learned valuable strategies for a variety of situations. I adapted some of those strategies into Strategies For Shattering Stereotypes. Those strategies are at the end of this post. I recommend both the Women and Spirituality Conference and the Diversity Council.

The research into gossip goes back at least to the middle of the 20th century. Both men and women research gossip. Putting all of their research together, gossip is talk and writing about people — both other people and ourselves — in family, social, workplace, and public settings.

Both men and women gossip. I have more than one source stating that men gossip more than women. One source was a replication of an earlier study’s finding that old men gossiped the most. The replicated study found that old men do indeed gossip the most. However, old men gossip the most because they have the time and opportunity to gossip. Women who’ve spent their lives caring for others still do the work of daily living when they are old. Old men — especially in the middle of the 20th century — never faced cooking and cleaning and laundry expectations.

As a child in the 1950s, I lived next to a Protestant minister and his wife. Both were elderly. The minister had time and opportunity to gossip while his wife took in extra laundry to pay bills. When the minister felt like having a piece of pie, he would get his wife into the car and drive to a restaurant. No matter what the weather, the minister made his wife stay in the car while he went inside for pie and gossip. When the wife needed glaucoma surgery, the minister insisted she return to her household duties days later instead of six weeks later. The minister’s mid-20th century religious belief assured him that his desire for pampering was more important than his wife’s need for recovery. You can see how this elderly wife had little time and opportunity for gossip. The entire neighbor sighed in relief when the minister died first.

Much of the research shows that gossip is both positive and negative. I define gossip as good, bad, or ugly. Good gossip ignores or breaks stereotypes while bad and ugly gossip are based on negative stereotypes.

Negative stereotypes exist about everyone, no matter their age, gender, race, religion, profession, etc. These stereotype blog posts will help you understand the negative stereotypes about you. Each post will focus on one or two or a few characteristics.

My collection of stereotypes comes from books, magazines, newspapers, movies, television shows, radio programs, news shows, conversations, etc.

Stereotypes and categories overlap at times. I create categories of stereotypes as I have stereotype examples to put into those categories.

Note

I started collecting stereotypes for an appendix in a book on gossip power. I recorded many of the citations in the index for the gossip book. As of today, I have 22 typed pages of just stereotypes and a cardboard box with more stereotypes. Eventually, I will separate the stereotype citations from the gossip book index and create a master list of all stereotype citations. It will be awhile, however.

I am publishing the stereotypes without citations because the sooner you know about them the sooner you can take action to counter the stereotypes other people use about you. Also, knowing about the stereotypes can help you avoid the negative consequences of using bad and ugly gossip. If you use negative stereotypes about other people, you are inviting other people to use negative stereotypes about you.

All stereotypes will be listed on this blog rather than in my book. There are just too many stereotypes to include all of them in the book.

Stereotype Updates

After I finish posting my 22 pages of stereotypes, I will start on my box of stereotypes. I will update the categories in each stereotype blog post as I come across them.

Make sure to read the Points to Ponder at the end of this post.

Negative Stereotypes About People In General
Listed In No Particular Order

The Relationship Between Men & Women

war

Beautiful People

adulterous

vain

egotistical

greedy

status-seeking

arrogant

aloof

self-indulgent

rotten lovers

too impatient to work at relationships

Physically Unattractive People

political radicals (which stereotypes political radicals negatively)

homosexual (which stereotypes homosexuals negatively)

Geeks (Nerds)

real pains

know-it-alls

uninteresting

social outcasts

Blondes

dumb

less trustworthy

can’t be taken seriously

Brunettes

mousy

boring

less attractive

Redheads

mean

wild

hot-tempered

brash

Short People

arrogant

defensive

perverts

Heavy People

smelly

dirty

lazy

failures

unable to control self

unable to maintain personal health

take up too much space

Heavy Men

lazy

low self-esteem

lack will power

few friends

unattractive

sloppy

dirty

slow

unhealthy

Heavy Women

few friends

lazy

slow

unhealthy

unattractive

low self-esteem

lack will power

Thin Men

few friends

Thin Women

vain

flirtatious

egotistical

Women In Jane Austen’s Time

laughing is a sign of sexual availability

showing teeth is a sign of being garrulous, plebeian, vulgar

Infants

extensions of women

Crack Babies

hopeless

lost generation

permanently damaged

Teenagers

juvenile delinquents

brainless

bubble gum chewers

hormone laden slobs

wild

rude

irresponsible

Elderly People

incompetent

sad

lonely

ill-tempered

demanding

selfish

stubborn

nosy

slow moving

snobbish

prejudiced

hypochondriac

bored

miserly

An Unhealthy Old Age Is…

a punishment for living “wrong”

Single Parent Families

broken

Children From Single Parent Families

end up in trouble

Government Officials

tell lies

cover up the truth

engage in conspiracies to deprive citizens of their  liberty

People Not Part Of Organized Religions, Conspicuous Consumption, Car Culture

weird

mentally ill

People Who Report Being Abducted By Aliens

masochists

inclined to fantasize

have a propensity to daydream

enthralled by novels

Terrorists

represent everyone in their ethnic group or religion

Arab terrorist attacks against Israel

come from racism and hatred without reason

Cheerleaders

gum-chewing ditzy snobs

airheads

gossipy

mean

Homeless People

want to be homeless

single men

drunks

Unemployed People

lazy

Truth Tellers

naive

suckers

fools

People Dependent An Others

immature

weak

shameful

uniquely feminine

Newspaper Readers, Television News Audience, & Radio News Audience

unintelligent

uninformed

morons

uninterested in good news

uninterested in hard facts

want soft news, uninterested in world news

only interested in crime

Television Audience To Advertisers

lying

cynical

mindless boobs

Prison Inmates

lie about health problems

Points to Ponder

Did you notice that heavy men, heavy women, and thin men are all stereotyped as having few friends? Thin women, on the other hand, are stereotyped as flirtatious. Stereotypers believe heavy men, heavy women, and thin men are socially unsuccessful because their weight gives them little value. But stereotypers give thin women some social value. The other stereotypes about thin women are negative. To stereotypers, thin women have limited social value and limited social success.

Pay attention when stereotypers pick the same stereotype for opposite characteristics. They will do the same thing to you if it gives them what they want. Clues to what stereotypers want come from the situations in which they use stereotypes. Stereotypes satisfy a need within a situation. Those needs include superiority, control, and self-protection.

Strategies For Shattering Stereotypes

Choose a strategy based on the level of danger in the situation. Talk to the target in front of the harasser only if the situation is safe for conversation. If the situation is dangerous, create some kind of distraction. I now carry a personal alarm with me for creating distractions quickly.

Talking to the target instead of the harasser allows the harasser to just walk away. If harassing situations come up regularly in a workplace or other common location, you could also use these strategies at calm times to increase understanding about the consequences of using stereotypes. Just tell stories to your coworkers/colleagues as opportunities come up.

Adapt the strategies as you need to. Write about other successful strategies in the comments section.

Surprise The Harasser(s)

If you can possibly do so, give the harasser(s) a moment of dignity. People harassing others will not expect positive statements. The positive statements might be enough to stop them in that situation. One example:

“It’s obvious —– is having a bad day. Let’s give him/her/them time to
calm down and ease the strain on his/her/their heart(s). Let’s hope
tomorrow will be better.”

This statement tells the harasser(s) that they are under stress and deserve to feel better. By expressing concern for their health, you are letting them know you consider them valuable. They may not feel much value in their daily lives.

Visit the website below for resources on opening doors that give moments of dignity. Read People Success Example #5 on the People Success page. You’ll learn how I turned a bad relationship around using moments of dignity, and reaped an unexpected reward.

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Make Yourself An Example

This works best if you are not whatever is the reason for the harassment, not Muslim, not black, not Jewish, not Hispanic, not whatever. If you can identify any commonality between yourself and the target(s), talk about them to the target.

“Excuse me, but I noticed that we share a taste for … How would you
recommend cooking it?”

Your commonality will at least partially shatter the stereotype.

Provide Information About Stereotypes

If you can connect to the Internet, bring up the appropriate stereotype blog post and tell the target what the stereotypes are about you and why they are wrong. You could start with:

“Did you know there are stereotypes about everyone? The stereotypes
about me are …, but they don’t fit me because …”

You would be shattering a stereotype in front of the harasser.

Talk About The Consequences Of Creating Failure

Visit this Success & Failure Choices page to read about various types of success and failure. If you can think of an example from your own life, tell that story. Otherwise, use one from the blog below.

You could use this example from “Standout Success For 19 Year Old Joey Prusak”:

“A Dairy Queen customer saw manager Joey Prusak stand up for a
visually impaired customer. The bystander customer sent an email
to Dairy Queen. The story ended up on Facebook. The owner of Dairy
Queen, Warren Buffet, called Joey to thank him. Queen Latifah invited
Joey to appear on her show and gave him money for his college fund.
NASCAR driver Kevin Harvick invited Joey to a race. Good things can
happen to people who take care of other people.”

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Talk About The Benefits Of Living The Golden Rule

Remind the harasser of the Golden Rule:

“Since the Golden Rule is important to me, I’m going to treat you
the way I want to be treated. I also know that being kind to others
is good for my health.”

My favorite version of the Golden Rule comes from Buddhism, “Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.” See this PDF file for Golden Rule statements in 21 religions, 5 philosophies, and 2 moral/ethical systems to pick your favorite version.

Read up on the health benefits of kindness for details to talk about.

And again, write about other successful strategies in the comments.

Paula M. Kramer
Copyright 2015
All rights reserved.

Posts on this blog alternate with posts at the link below. Posts for both blogs are published on Wednesdays as they are ready to be published. Time between posts could be weeks or months.

blog.smilessparksuccess.com.

Standards For Success Posters

Good, Bad, & Ugly Gossip

Gossip Proverb

Free Online Resources For Avoiding Failure & Choosing Success

speakingfromtriumph.com

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