Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Romance

If you use negative stereotypes about people who are different from you, you are inviting everyone who hears you to use negative stereotypes about you. Below are some of the negative stereotypes other people could use about you in romantic relationships.

My collection of stereotypes comes from books, magazines, newspapers, movies, television shows, radio programs, news shows, conversations, etc. Sources can be 10s to 100s to 1000s of years old.

Stereotypes and categories overlap at times. I create categories of stereotypes as I have stereotype examples to put into those categories.

The research into gossip goes back at least to the middle of the 20th century. Both men and women research gossip. Putting all of their research together, gossip is talk and writing about people — both other people and ourselves — in family, social, workplace, and public settings.

Much of the research shows that gossip is both positive and negative. I define gossip as good, bad, or ugly. Good gossip ignores or breaks stereotypes while bad and ugly gossip are based on negative stereotypes.

Negative stereotypes exist about everyone, no matter their age, gender, race, religion, profession, etc. These stereotype blog posts will help you understand the negative stereotypes about you. Each post will focus on one or two or a few characteristics.

Stereotype Updates

I add stereotypes as I come across them.

I will add the new stereotypes at the bottom of each listing, putting ~~~~~ between the older stereotypes and the new stereotypes.

More Stereotypes

Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: People In General

Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Ethnic, National, & Racial Identities

Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Workplaces

Negative Stereotypes Behind Bad & Ugly Gossip: Poverty

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Soft skill power strategies can help you overcome stereotypes about you.



Relationship Between Men & Women


Women In Romantic Relationships

should give up jobs when children are born
should not accept a job offer that could jeopardize partner’s caree

Romantic Relationships Are Likely To End If

the woman has a high status career and stays in her career

If A Woman Succeeds While Her Partner Fails It Means The Woman

caused her partner’s failure
could destroy the relationship

If A Woman Fails While Her Partner Succeeds It Means

her partner had the ability to succeed, but she didn’t

The Most Successful Relationship Is Between

a man with a high level career and a woman with a low level career

Women Wearing Revealing Clothing Are

seen by men as seductive
seen by women as not nice

Women Who Go To A Bar, Have A Nightcap In An Apartment, Dress Up

interested in sex

Women Who Drink Alcohol

sexually available
more aggressive
have few social skills

Obese People

less attractive
lower self-esteem
less likely to be dating
less erotic
deserves fat, ugly partner

Friendly Women

want sex

Men Who Dress Revealingly

less liked
not sexy

Muscular Wen

abusive in relationships with overweight or underweight people

Men From The Bronx

beer can smasher
thick accent

Messy Magician, Life Coach, “Crypto Guy” on The Bachelorette

shallow dates

Older Women With Younger Men

trying to hang onto youth

Younger Women With Older Men

gold diggers

In Abusive Relationships

men do all the abusing

Women Battered By Men


Men Battered By Women


Women In Violent Domestic Relationships


Men In Violent Domestic Relationships


Analyzing Women’s Roles In Violent Relationships


Analyzing Men’s Roles In Violent Relationships

giving men an excuse

Taking Into Account Individual Pathologies, Marital Dynamics, And Personal Circumstances, And Any Abuse Men Suffer

would only give men an excuse to get away with abuse

If a Woman Acts Out Abusive Behavior Toward Her Partner


Obese People

less attractive
lower self-esteem
less likely to be dating
less erotic
deserves fat, ugly partner

Points to Ponder

First, the list above provides an example of hedge-your-bets stereotyping. Hedging your bets with stereotypes means using opposite stereotypes about the same group or individual. The opposite stereotypes in this list are about women abused by men. These women are all of the below:





People who use hedge-your-bets stereotyping are truth definers. They define truth according to what they believe. Maintaining their definition of truth means using stereotypes according to situations. Opposite situations require opposite stereotypes. However, some truth definers will use opposite stereotypes within the same conversation or paragraph.

Second, these stereotypes make abusive men inherently bad, even when situational factors make their abuse more likely. Domestic violence will not end as long as anyone uses these stereotypes about romantic relationships. Men can never start or stop abusing when they get the emotional support they need.

Third, the stereotypes ignore the women who abuse men in romantic relationships. My mother was one of those abusers. She emotionally abused my father.

“Help for Men Who are Being Abused”
Lawrence Robinson and Jeanne Segal, PhD
Las updated: January 2021.

“We Run a Hotline for Male Victims and Perpetrators of Domestic Violence”
Avi Mor and Malka Genachowski
Newsweek: My Turn
April 28, 2021


Critical Thinking Questions

1.  What’s happening?

2.  Why is it important?

3.  What don’t I see?

4.  How do I know?

5.  Who is saying it?

6.  What else? What if?

Stereotype Thinking Questions

1.  What is threatening my beliefs?

2.  How can I make it unimportant?

3.  What can I reject?

4.  What can I laugh at?

5.  How can I attack people who threaten my beliefs?

6.  How can I deflect?

The stereotype thinking questions are mine, based on my observations of stereotype thinkers.


Paula M. Kramer
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All rights reserved.

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