If you use negative stereotypes about people who are different from you, you are inviting everyone who hears you to use negative stereotypes about you. Below are some of the negative stereotypes other people could use about you in romantic relationships.
My collection of stereotypes comes from books, magazines, newspapers, movies, television shows, radio programs, news shows, conversations, etc.
Stereotypes and categories overlap at times. I create categories of stereotypes as I have stereotype examples to put into those categories.
The research into gossip goes back at least to the middle of the 20th century. Both men and women research gossip. Putting all of their research together, gossip is talk and writing about people — both other people and ourselves — in family, social, workplace, and public settings.
Much of the research shows that gossip is both positive and negative. I define gossip as good, bad, or ugly. Good gossip ignores or breaks stereotypes while bad and ugly gossip are based on negative stereotypes.
Negative stereotypes exist about everyone, no matter their age, gender, race, religion, profession, etc. These stereotype blog posts will help you understand the negative stereotypes about you. Each post will focus on one or two or a few characteristics.
Stereotype Updates
I add stereotypes as I come across them.
I will add the new stereotypes at the bottom of each listing, putting ~~~~~ between the older stereotypes and the new stereotypes.
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Relationship Between Men & Women
war
Women in romantic relationships
should give up jobs when children are born
should not accept a job offer that could jeopardize partner’s caree
Romantic relationships are likely to end if
the woman has a high status career and stays in her career
If a woman succeeds while her partner fails it means the woman
caused her partner’s failure
could destroy the relationship
If a woman fails while her partner succeeds it means
her partner had the ability to succeed, but she didn’t
The most successful relationship is between
a man with a high level career and a woman with a low level career
Women wearing revealing clothing are
seen by men as seductive
seen by women as not nice
Women who go to a bar, have a nightcap in an apartment, dress up
interested in sex
Women who drink alcohol
sexually available
more aggressive
have few social skills
Obese people
less attractive
lower self-esteem
less likely to be dating
less erotic
deserves fat, ugly partner
Friendly women
Men who dress revealingly
less liked
not sexy
Muscular men
domineering
controlling
mean
abusive in relationships with overweight or underweight people
In abusive relationships
men do all the abusing
Women battered by men
masochists
castrators
flirts
Men battered by women are
liars
freaks
Women in violent domestic relationships
blameless
Men in violent domestic relationships
blameworthy
Analyzing women’s roles in violent relationships
sexist
Analyzing men’s roles in violent relationships
giving men an excuse
Taking into account individual pathologies, marital dynamics,
and personal circumstances, and any abuse men suffer
would only give men an excuse to get away with abuse
If a woman acts out abusive behavior toward her partner
drunk
unstable
shrewish
Obese people
less attractive
lower self-esteem
less likely to be dating
less erotic
deserves fat, ugly partner
Points to Ponder
First, the list above provides an example of hedge-your-bets stereotyping. Hedging your bets with stereotypes means using opposite stereotypes about the same group or individual. The opposite stereotypes in this list are about women abused by men. These women are all of the below:
masochists
castrators
flirts
blameless
People who use hedge-your-bets stereotyping are truth definers. They define truth according to what they believe. Maintaining their definition of truth means using stereotypes according to situations. Opposite situations require opposite stereotypes. However, some truth definers will use opposite stereotypes within the same conversation or paragraph.
Second, these stereotypes make abusive men inherently bad, even when situational factors make their abuse more likely. Domestic violence will not end as long as anyone uses these stereotypes about romantic relationships.
Third, the stereotypes ignore the women who abuse men in romantic relationships. My mother was one of those abusers. She emotionally abused my father.
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Critical Thinking Questions
1. What’s happening?
2. Why is it important?
3. What don’t I see?
4. How do I know?
5. Who is saying it?
6. What else? What if?
Stereotype Thinking Questions
1. What is threatening my beliefs?
2. How can I make it unimportant?
3. What can I reject?
4. What can I laugh at?
5. How can I attack people who threaten my beliefs?
6. How can I deflect?
The stereotype thinking questions are mine, based on my observations of stereotype thinkers.
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Online workshop that provides strategies to chip away stereotypes in both professional and personal relationships:
End Negative Gossip & Increase Collaboration
“After participating in the gossip power presentation, I know I now have a better plan to be more effective in understanding how gossip affects every area of a person’s personal and professional life. Using her strategies on gossip power and gossip ears I feel I will be better able to navigate these areas both inside and outside the office. Paula does a great job, using both scientific research and personal anecdotes and examples, to develop strategies for turning the power of gossip into positives for anyone attending her presentation. I left energized and excited about her message and what I learned and am definitely looking forward to learning more at her glass ceiling presentation.“
Mark Spiers
SBDC Consultant
Paula is a fabulous motivational speaker. Not only does she speak on positivity, but she conducts webinars on gossip and how to get out of the trap!! She is very knowledgeable, professional and inspirational! I love Paula’s talks and webinars! She mentors women to bring out their best and believe in themselves! Thank you for all that you! The world needs you right now!
Lauren Ebbecke
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